Lifestyle
Singaporean university graduate pays off student loan through sugar dating
A sugar baby is a person who receives benefits financially and materialistically in exchange for a relationship.
A sugar daddy or mummy is the one who provides those benefits and gets into a relationship with a sugar baby.
Most people view these terms negatively and scrutinise those individuals.
Felice Ang, a 23-year-old university graduate and sugar baby, is here to challenge those views.
In an interview with Asiaone, Ms Ang talks about her life as a sugar baby.
Unlike the stereotypical seen on televisions, she discovered sugar dating through her university peers, not through suspicious connections.
Financial Troubles
Both of her parents, who work in the food and beverage (F&B) industry, found it hard to pay her expensive student loans.
Furthermore, when having two part-time jobs could not secure her education anymore, she decided to try sugar dating.
Physical Intimacy
Ms Ang did not have complaints about the job, but she had set clear boundaries.
Men mainly pay for her companionship. Luxurious items such as a HP laptop, custom-made Pandora necklace, and the iPhone 11 are benefits that she receives courteously.
Despite having paid for her companionship, Ms Ang stated that her relationships with her two sugar daddies naturally evolved to a sexual one.
Both relationships were mutually exclusive, and she would treat her sugar daddy as her boyfriend.
Boundaries with Sugar Daddy
For Ms Ang, mutual respect is an important aspect of a relationship. The three boundaries she has set are:
1. Don’t discredit one another’s effort.
2. Respect one another’s customs.
3. Don’t abuse each other physically.
These boundaries help her to have a respectful relationship with her sugar daddy.
Learning How to Date
Regardless of the job’s nature, it might not look all bad.
Engaged in a relationship with Ms Ang, her sugar daddy, a 35-year-old British divorcee, learns how to date again.
Even though many sugar babies would date married men, Ms Ang rejects the idea, firmly believing it is immoral to do so.
Understanding before Judging
For Ms Ang, sugar dating is a genuine job and also a good way to discover what one wants in a relationship.
Being with her current sugar daddy, she earns S$3000 a month and gets to dine privately and go on yacht trips.
Should there be judgments if she’s living happily and earning honestly without harming people?
Lifestyle
Living modestly in Singapore on $10 a day: 27-year-old Malaysian man shares insights
In Singapore, a 27-year-old Malaysian man has gained attention on TikTok for his frugal approach to life while working in the bustling city. Jonathan Lim, a civil engineer earning around S$3,700 a month, shares his strategy for spending less than S$10 a day.
He divides his week between Singapore and Malaysia, staying in a hostel and focusing on economical food choices.
Despite some concerns about the extremeness of his thriftiness, many commend his financial discipline, while others suggest a slightly more flexible approach.
SINGAPORE: A 27-year-old man from Malaysia, garnered the interest of social media users on TikTok due to his method of budgeting and practising a frugal lifestyle while employed in the bustling city of Singapore.
Many are left wondering whether it’s feasible to lead a modest life in Singapore without significant sacrifices.
Malaysian civil engineer, Jonathan Lim, has provided some insights through his TikTok documenting how he manages to spend less than S$10 a day while working in the city.
The video’s caption read: “Part 6: Is spending 10 dollars enough for a day working in Singapore?”
His TikTok content primarily revolves around detailing his expenses in Singapore, excluding the costs related to accommodation.
@jonlzx Part 6: Is spending 10dollars enough for a day working in SINGAPORE? #sgvlog #worklife #minivlog #fypシ #simplelife
Hybrid Work Arrangement
Lim, who earns about S$3,700 a month as a civil engineer in Singapore, follows a unique hybrid work arrangement.
He commutes from his home in Kulai, Johor, to Singapore three days a week, with the remaining days dedicated to remote work.
Lim strategically divides his time, with more than half of his week spent in his Johor home.
During the workweek, specifically on Mondays, Tuesdays, and Wednesdays, he opts to stay at a capsule hostel in Singapore.
This arrangement serves the purpose of reducing his expenses on permanent lodging in Singapore, although it necessitates regular commuting between Malaysia and Singapore.
His weekly schedule commences with a Monday morning journey to Singapore at 6 a.m., where he resides in the hostel for two nights.
Hostel Living and Food Choices
During his days in Singapore, Lim stays in a capsule hostel, which costs him about S$35 (approximately US$25.74) a night.
While this arrangement doesn’t include food expenses, the hostel provides free breakfast, helping him save on at least one meal each day.
Lim’s food choices are budget-friendly, focusing on cai fan (economic rice) for lunch and dinner, which costs him about S$3.60 per meal.
Occasionally, he indulges in items like bread and soya bean milk, emphasizing the affordability of such food options in Singapore.
For exercise, he opts for a cost-effective approach, eating grilled chicken drumsticks purchased from FairPrice, and running at public stadiums.
While a dinner consisting solely of protein might not seem substantial to some, Lim clarifies that the two drumsticks he purchased were exceptionally large, providing more than enough sustenance for an adult like him.
Therefore, when factoring in his daily transport costs of S$3, Lim’s daily expenses in Singapore amount to S$13.10, excluding accommodation expenses.
Balancing Thriftiness and Enjoyment
In his most recent TikTok video, Lim responded to both favorable and critical comments regarding his lifestyle of managing on S$10 or more per day in Singapore.
He expressed his belief that such frugal practices can become a standard way of life.
https://www.tiktok.com/@jonlzx/video/7276135975355485441?embed_source=121355059%2C121351166%2C121331973%2C120811592%2C120810756%3Bnull%3Bembed_blank&refer=embed&referer_url=mothership.sg%2F2023%2F09%2Fmalaysian-10-dollars-a-day-singapore%2F%3Ffbclid%3DIwAR1o-WKyDvXTTGxKWlXGd9u3xXdCO_4zyBOMRSF13kzzdcWs5dU2QI4E_9g&referer_video_id=7276135975355485441
Moreover, he aimed to dispel the misconception that his approach is detrimental to his well-being and happiness, emphasizing that he doesn’t sacrifice enjoyment to save a few dollars.
He acknowledges the trade-offs, such as spending time away from family and loved ones.
However, he sees this period as an opportunity for professional growth.
While Lim’s lifestyle is not his everyday routine, it highlights how one can manage expenses in an expensive city like Singapore.
He also appreciates the safety and amenities the city offers, such as safe streets for late-night jogging.
In the long run, Lim said he will need to decide whether to settle long-term in Singapore or return to Malaysia.
Supporters cheer Lim’s thrifty approach
The majority of people expressed their support for Lim’s frugal lifestyle, offering him their best wishes and advising him to disregard those who ridicule his way of life.
“Good to start saving up at a young age,” they said, while also cautioning against taking frugality to such an extreme that it becomes excessively absurd.
However, some users believe that Lim should consider a slightly higher expenditure than his current approach, asserting that life is too short to subject oneself to such deprivation.
“Can add another $2 la, don’t have to thrift like that,” one user said.
This was first published on Gutzy.Asia
Lifestyle
Rachel Wan speaks out on father’s solitary passing in Singapore hospital due to staffing shortages
Rachel Wan of ‘Kin’ highlighted her father’s solitary passing in a Singapore hospital due to understaffing in an Instagram post. She contrasted Singapore’s overworked healthcare culture with Australia’s, emphasizing the need for a better work-life balance in the nation.
SINGAPORE: On 25 August, Rachel Wan, the 26-year-old star of ‘Kin’, took to Instagram to share a poignant account of her father’s passing, revealing that he had died alone in a Singapore hospital due to understaffing issues.
Wan’s emotional revelation sheds light on the need for a transformation in the prevailing culture of overworking in the nation.
Disparities between healthcare work in Singapore and Australia
In a candid Instagram video, Wan expressed her long-standing desire to address a topic she finds deeply meaningful.
She remarked, “I came to Australia because I felt like there was a better work-life balance here,” before unveiling a recent discovery that profoundly affected her.
The ‘Kin’ star recounted her encounter with a nurse who had previously worked in the same Singapore hospital where her father had spent his final moments.
This nurse later moved to Australia, much like Wan herself.
A stark contrast between working conditions in the two countries emerged.
Wan unveiled that in Singapore, nurses might be tasked with managing “up to 12 patients at any given time”. Conversely, in Australia, nurses are limited to caring for six patients each.
Moreover, Australian healthcare staff are afforded designated rest periods between shifts, a practice reportedly absent in Singapore.
Heartbreaking account of Wan’s father’s passing
Wan’s emotions were palpable as she recounted the circumstances leading to her father’s demise, underscoring the fact that he passed away in solitude at the hospital without any loved ones by his side.
Her poignant Instagram tribute suggested that he passed away in March 2022.
Describing the events of his passing day, she detailed how her father had been transferred from the emergency ward to the general ward as his time grew short.
However, to access him, Wan and her family had to undergo a Covid-19 test, mandatory at the time for hospital visits. Tragically, her father passed away during the testing process.
Distressingly, no one from the hospital informed them of his passing.
Wan expressed her shock, revealing that they discovered his lifeless body alone in the ward without any staff present.
When she inquired about the lack of communication, a doctor allegedly cited understaffing as the reason.
Wan stressed the importance of sharing her experience, noting that the healthcare sector is not the only one grappling with such challenges in Singapore.
She asserted that overworking should not be celebrated as an achievement and urged for a shift towards a healthier work-life balance in the nation.
Her Instagram post resonated with many, drawing a flood of comments from netizens who shared their similar experiences and nurses who opened up about the demanding work environment they face.
Amidst the discussions, Wan clarified that her father’s passing was due to oesophageal cancer, not Covid-19.
A plea for empathy and understanding
In response to differing opinions, including some who highlighted Singapore’s relative advantages compared to other countries, Wan emphasized that her intention was to raise awareness about the lack of work-life balance in Singapore.
Influencer and doctor Zoen Tay also contributed to the discourse, acknowledging room for improvement in both countries’ healthcare systems.
Wan extended her empathy to Singaporean nurses, finding a sense of healing in realizing that her father wasn’t neglected due to a lack of care, but rather due to the strain of their demanding workload.
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