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Are Singaporeans too easily offended?

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~ By Tim Smith ~

Singaporeans have begun a crusade. Not against tyranny, or oppression, or privilege. In fact, this crusade, as far as anyone can tell, is against ever having to feel offended. And this crusade is leading more and more Singaporeans to seek out offensive content, so that they may destroy it.

Let me begin with the case of Sun Xu. This young international student was studying engineering at NUS, when he wrote in a blog entry that all Singaporeans were 'dogs'. The effect that this remark had on the public consciousness cannot be understated. Far from regarding his remark as the sort of flippant verbal abuse common in the playgrounds of Junior College, to which a father might remind his crying son that while sticks and stones may break bones, names cannot hurt him, Sun Xu's remark spurred many Singaporeans into battle. Harsh disciplinary action was taken against Sun Xu. In total, Sun Xu was fined a hefty $3000, made to complete three months community service, and he had his scholarship revoked retroactively, meaning that not only would he lose his scholarship for the rest of his term at NUS, but he would also have to pay back the $8,200 that he had already received. He later gave a full public apology.

Calling Singaporeans dogs is an expensive hobby then. In sum, it cost Sun Xu at least $11,200 plus community service. Putting that into perspective, Madam Gan Hui Leung, who was recently found guilty of violating employee safety laws that led to the death of her maid, 25 year old Siti Ustima, was fined a mere $5000. When a foreigner offends a citizen, $10,000 fine. When a citizen kills foreigner, $5,000 fine. Incredibly enough, despite having almost bankrupted Sun Xu, in several online polls, the majority of respondents felt that Sun Xu had been treated too leniently.

What few people realize about the Sun Xu case is that he is studying engineering at NUS, just as many foreign students do, under a contract which binds him to work in Singapore for the next six years after graduating. Although Sun Xu had his scholarship revoked, his contract nonetheless binds him to work in Singapore for six years after completing his training. When Sun Xu came to Singapore, he was under the impression that he would get a free education, in return he would dedicate six years of his working life to paying Singapore back through skilled employment. Now, because he said that Singaporeans were dogs, he is required to both pay for the education he was promised for free, and work for Singapore for six years.

Then came the case of Angelo Jandugan, a Singaporean citizen of Filipino origin, who commented on a Facebook thread that Singaporeans had a 'loser mentality'. An army of angry Singaporeans, led by the incendiary reporting of the Temasek Review, bombarded his putative employer Deutsche Bank, with emails and open letters, to have him dismissed. The Temasek Review even supplied contact details for Deutsche Bank in a bid to get Jandungan fired. Deutsche Bank, due to the massive public response, was forced to state publicly that they had no employer by the name of Angelo Jandugan currently working with them.

Indeed, it is not hard to find hundreds of similar stories since the Sun Xu case broke. Stories about foreigners making disrespectful or offensive remarks are the bread and butter of the media for the moment. The very stories themselves have become stories, with reporters now scouring the comments threads of their own stories to find more offensive remarks from foreigners, to write new articles about offensive foreigners, to get more offensive comments from the comments threads, and so on. But is it really news?

The remarks have hit a real nerve among many Singaporeans. Why? Take a moment to think about it for a second. Why are stories about foreigners saying "mean stuff" about us front page news? Why are so many responding with an irrational and ruthless fury towards these remarks? Why are they reacting like children in a playground?

The Singaporeans who are claiming to be offended argue that the government's liberal immigration policy is to blame. Singaporeans are losing out to foreigners who come here, steal our jobs, enjoy privileges that we don't get, aren't required to do NS, etc. It is adding insult to injury to call us 'dogs', or tell us we are worth less than 'fart', or whatever. That is their argument. I don't buy it.

Firstly, if immigration policy were the problem, the anger ought to be directed towards the politicians, not individual foreigners who offend us. Secondly, if the problem is that foreigners are stealing all our jobs, then two of the most high profile cases, Sun Xu and Angelo Jandugan, fulfill neither of those criteria. Sun Xu was a student, and stealing no one's job (he was brought here because of a shortage of skilled engineers after all). Angelo Jandugan is a citizen, not a foreigner, and therefore enjoyed no special privileges.

The problem lies, instead, with Singapore's attitude towards offense. Nowhere else in the entire western world would you find the national reaction to being offended on a par with what we have recently witnessed. Fines imposed, scholarships revoked, jobs lost, these punishments are all over and above what a liberal society's response to feeling offended should be. So just how should a liberal society respond to feeling offended? The answer is very simple: it shouldn't.

Offense is a self-inflicted injury. It makes no sense to hold other people accountable for your own self-inflicted injury. If a fat man shoots me in a dark alleyway, obviously it is right that he be held accountable. The fat man inflicted the injury, therefore the fat man is culpable. However, if I see a fat man in a dark alleyway and his obese frame offends me, who is responsible for my feelings of offense? Is it the fat man's fault that I find him offensive? Should I yell at the fat man "You there! Remove yourself from this alleyway at once. Your obese body is injuring my sensibilities!" Of course not! It is my fault, out and out. I am the one who is offended, and I am responsible for my feelings of offense. From there, I have two choices. One, leave the alleyway so I don't have to look at the fat man. Or two, I can start to work on changing my feelings towards fat people. They are my feelings, after all. So I am responsible for them.

In this epidemic surrounding offensive foreigners in Singapore, we have placed the responsibility squarely on the foreigners; they offended us, therefore it was their fault. In doing so, we have been the angry people shouting at fat men in alleyways. We have been blaming other people for our own self-inflicted injuries, turning it into their fault. But this is not how offense works. Offense is not some trump card that obligates others to make reparations to the offended parties. Offense is the responsibility of the offended.

Worst of all, now, it seems, many Singaporeans are chomping at the bit, searching for more and more foreigners to hold responsible for their own hurt feelings. They are seeking out the alleyways where they know that fat people will congregate, and then launching an attack. News sites have been scraping the very bottom of the barrel to supply similar stories (one recent Temasek Review article alleged that a foreigner had called Singaporeans "low quality"). The appetite for these stories has become insatiable.

But this is the wrong strategy. It is not healthy for the individual nor for society at large. Let me suggest, as humbly as I possibly can, a different strategy. If you feel offended by something you read online, whether from a foreigner or a citizen, take a moment. Breathe. Remove yourself from the situation and, if that's not possible, try to change your feelings towards the remarks. Your feelings of offense are avoidable and it is your decision how to let these remarks affect you. Ultimately, the responsibility lies with you.

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Reddit user alleges brother-in-law secretly recorded her showering, asks for advice on what to do

A Reddit user recounted the disturbing experience of catching her brother-in-law secretly recording her while she showered. Despite her family’s efforts to dissuade her, she allegedly proceeded to file a police report. Netizens rallied behind her decision, affirming that she made the right choice.

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SINGAPORE: A Reddit user recently shared her troubling experience, seeking advice on whether she could report her brother-in-law for secretly recording her while she was showering.

In a post uploaded on Wednesday (11 Sept), she explained that she lives with her family, including her pregnant sister and her sister’s boyfriend, who are staying with them while waiting for their Build-To-Order (BTO) flat.

The incident occurred one night when she was showering in a bathroom with a faulty door. To avoid disturbing her family with the loud noise caused by locking the door, she left it unlocked.

During her shower, she heard knocking and tapping sounds from the bathroom door.

When she looked out through the sliding door that separated the wet and dry areas, she saw a phone peeking over the top of the door. Shocked, she quickly closed the sliding door.

Afterwards, she felt overwhelmed and debated whether to inform her family. She also feared that her sister might have been a victim of the same behaviour.

Seeking advice, she asked on Reddit whether she could file a police report, and how the police might handle the situation if evidence had been deleted or if her brother-in-law denied it.

Netizens urge user to report incident

In response to her story on Reddit, many netizens encouraged the user to report the incident to the police.

One user strongly urged her to make a police report, stating, “You will only be enabling the criminal to commit future crimes if you let it slide.”

They explained that the police would record her statement and possibly confiscate the suspect’s mobile device for forensic IT investigations.

The Redditor reassured her that even if the data had been deleted, it was still possible for the police to retrieve timestamps of recordings or detect suspicious activity, such as deleting files at certain times.

They added that lodging a police report would serve as a precedent if the suspect engaged in similar behaviour in the future. The user was also advised to confide in a trustworthy family member or friend for support when filing the report.

Another user mentioned that she did not need to leave her room to make a report, as it could be done via the police website using Singpass, or by calling 999.

Additionally, one user recommended contacting the AWARE hotline for victims of sexual assault, particularly if her family was not supportive.

User files police report despite family’s reaction

In a subsequent update, the user thanked netizens for their support and confirmed that she had informed her family and filed a police report.

She shared that her brother-in-law had contacted her mother, indicating he was aware of being discovered.

Despite this, the user expressed frustration with her family’s response.

Her sister suggested that informing the family was punishment enough for her husband, and her parents urged her to “calm down” and reconsider filing the report.

The user felt disappointed by their lack of empathy, suspecting cultural norms may have influenced their reaction.

Netizens support user’s decision

In further responses, many netizens backed her decision to report the incident, assuring her that none of the blame rested on her.

One user praised her for being brave and doing the right thing by reporting the incident to the police, noting that “saving face” is a common cultural practice.

They added that the family should realise the true fault lay with the brother-in-law, describing him as a “pervert” and stating that no one should side with such behaviour.

Others reassured her that the family was already damaged by her brother-in-law’s behaviour, and that she had made the right choice.

A user expressed relief that she had filed the report, advising her not to feel guilty or be swayed by her family’s attempts to dissuade her.

They pointed out that many cases go unreported due to the desire to “save face” or “give someone a chance.”

The user added that her brother-in-law’s behaviour was likely not an isolated incident and praised her for taking the right steps to protect herself and others.

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TikTok video shows woman confronting 12 tenants in HDB flat, demands immediate eviction

A now-viral TikTok video shows a woman confronting tenants after allegedly discovering 12 people living in an HDB flat. She demanded they leave within an hour and called the police. While some praised the agent for enforcing HDB regulations, others felt the one-hour notice was too harsh, especially for migrant workers who might have come home after a long day. The current occupancy limit for four-room or larger HDB flats is eight people.

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SINGAPORE: A now-viral TikTok video, with nearly 2 million views, features a woman, reportedly a property agent, confronting a group of tenants after allegedly discovering 12 people living in an HDB flat.

The woman, along with a person filming the scene, seemingly there for an inspection, is seen counting the tenants and questioning how many people are staying in the unit.

The one-minute clip, posted last Thursday (5 September) under the title “HDB unit being illegally sub-let,” captures the cameraman comparing the situation to “Crime Watch.”

The video alleges that 12 individuals are crammed into the flat, raising questions about whether this is allowed in Singapore.

While counting heads, the woman also inspects the rooms, revealing cramped conditions.

Clothes hang from window grilles, a thin mattress leans against the wall, and belongings are scattered across the floor.

At one point, the cameraman alerts her to someone in the toilet, visible as a shadow behind the door.

In the kitchen, she questions an occupant about a missing cabinet door, but he cannot provide a clear explanation.

In another room, visibly dissatisfied, the woman finds a dismantled bedframe propped against the wall and asks who is responsible for it.

Later, she sternly addresses some of the tenants, saying, “I give u one hour to pack your stuff, and get out of the place, if not I call the police.”

The video ends with a shot of a police car parked below the HDB block, but it doesn’t show or explain what happens next to the tenants or whether they were eventually evicted.

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Camera man feels like he is on Crime Watch. 12 pax squeeze in one flat in Singapore is crazy!! SG can meh? #realestate #realestatesingapore #singapore #crimewatch #police #exposed #caughtoncamera

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In the comment section, some commended the property agent for taking responsibility by conducting spot checks to ensure tenants complied with HDB regulations.

However, others felt that the one-hour eviction notice could be too harsh for the tenants.

Several commenters speculated that the tenants, who appeared to be migrant workers, were likely unaware of the illegal subletting arrangement.

They may have paid rent, only to come home after a long day of work to find themselves being evicted.

In response to a netizen’s question about the illegal subletting, the admin of the TikTok account clarified that there were unauthorized tenants staying in the unit who were not registered with HDB.

The admin also mentioned that only six people are allowed to stay in four-room or larger flats, but some commenters corrected this information, noting that the maximum occupancy had been revised to eight.

Indeed, a joint press release in December 2023 announced that the occupancy limit had been increased from six to eight persons for three years, from 1 January 2024 to 31 December 2026.

This revised cap applies to four-room or larger HDB flats, including living quarters within HDB commercial properties that are comparable in size to a four-room flat.

The measure is intended to ease rental pressure, driven by the sharp rise in residential rents due to COVID-19 disruptions and increased rental demand.

However, authorities have also warned that they will strictly enforce the occupancy cap and may revoke rental approvals for homeowners who violate these regulations.

2019 Report Reveals Four-Room HDB Flat Housing 24 Tenants

In 2019, a report emerged alleging that a four-room HDB flat was housing 24 tenants, four times the maximum allowed by HDB.

The flat contained three double-decker bunk beds crammed into each bedroom, accommodating at least 18 people across the three rooms. One bedroom alone had eight occupants, and the living room was illegally partitioned into two additional rooms, rented to two couples, bringing the total to 24 tenants.

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