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TOC Focus Week: “Show your inner courage. Show your worth.”

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This is our third article in our Focus Week on people who, despite their disabilities and special needs, have overcome obstacles and challenges they faced.

Deborah Choo –

“That is just life for you.”

That was what Hairiani Ali said  when her friend asked her if she was ever affected by how others see her, or if she ever felt inferior. This is how Hairaini has lived through 40 years of silence.

Some do not remember how or why they are deaf. Others contracted illnesseswhen they are toddlers. For Hairaini, it’s German measles that robbed her of her hearing ability while she was in her mother’s womb.

German measles, otherwise known as rubella, is a respiratory disease caused by a virus. This disease usually starts with a rash and can be spread via contact with an infected person through coughing or sneezing. If a pregnant woman contracted this virus, there are five possible birth defects that may affect the fetus: (1) eafness, (2) cataracts, (3) congenital heart defects, (4) mental retardation and (5) organ damage (specifically the liver and spleen). The fetus has a 20 per cent risk of being born with these defects if the pregnant mother is infected early in her pregnancy.

Imagine a world where you are just beginning to roll on your back and your parents are overjoyed, but you can only see them smile and not hear their hearty laughter. Imagine a time when you noticed the people around you are upset but you are unclear why because you cannot hear. Imagine a state where you want to find someone to talk to when you are down, but no one can understand what you are saying or desperately gesturing about.

That is the world Hairaini was born into.

That is the world of the deaf.

Hairaini is the eldest in the family with  two brothers and two sisters. She is the only with hearing disability in her family. Since young, her parents were very protective of her, sometimes overprotective she feels. Hairaini was often called “pekak”, which is an extremely offensive word in Malay. While “pekak” is the official Malay word for “deaf”, it also refers to that person as stupid or an idiot.

Her parents had a hard time accepting that their firstborn is deaf, perhaps more so than Hairaini herself. “All I know is there’s happiness and unhappiness in life,” Hairaini said.

As she correctly pointed out, there are always the ups and the downs in life. Some people like Hairaini meet more obstacles than others, yet with every trial, and every hurtful remark, this fighter emerged stronger.

Her life was not smooth sailing, even as a child. She failed her subjects in primary school and had to be transferred to another one. She revealed that it was a tough time and often a “culture shock” for students who went from a deaf school to  mainstream ones as there were no sign teachers at these. “We could not get used to it and as a result we lost motivation studying,” Hairaini said.

Because of problems communicating, Hairaini had few friends.. She normally communicates at home verbally as her parents disapproved of her using sign language. With colleagues, she writes on paper.

Even when she married her Pakistani husband, many questioned his judgment in taking a deaf woman as his spouse. Nonetheless, she is now happily married and inherited a stepson. More recently, she entered into a home stay venture with her husband.

Securing employment has always been a challenge for the deaf.  Hairaini had been working in a firm as a Customer Service officer who dealt mainly with emails and faxes. However, since her company decided to restructure the firm, doing away with such officers, she was told to leave. She then sought help from an outplacement consultancy. “The lady [consultant] said she had never heard of a deaf person working in such a post before and was surprised,” Hairaini claimed.

What kept her going all these years is her personal philosophy, which she summed up as: “Show your inner courage. Show your worth.”

Another inspiration was her work. “Many colleagues were shocked or unprepared about how to work with me. It took some time before they trusted me and worked well under different bosses,” she recalled her days when she was working as an Export Documentation Coordinator.

Hairaini also urges the government to look into providing English subtitles for television, more informative signs, and emergency SMS services. “There was one time I was waiting for the MRT to come. There was an announcement but no one told me what was going on. All I could do was to follow the people,” she says.She also pointed out a lack of research on the deaf here in Singapore and sincerely hopes that the relevant associations would do so. As for the deaf community itself, Hairaini believes that there are insufficient leaders within the community and urges more people to be proactive and take on leadership roles to advance the needs of the deaf.

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Miss Universe cuts ties with Indonesia chapter after harassment allegations

The Miss Universe Organization severs ties with Indonesia franchise due to harassment claims. Malaysia edition canceled.

Women allege body checks before pageant. Investigation launched. Safety prioritized.

Indonesia winner to compete in November finale. Height requirement controversy.

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WASHINGTON, UNITED STATES — The Miss Universe Organization has cut ties with its Indonesia franchise, it announced days after allegations of sexual harassment, and will cancel an upcoming Malaysia edition.

In the complaint, more than a half dozen women said all 30 finalists for Miss Universe Indonesia were unexpectedly asked to strip for a supposed body check for scars and cellulite two days before the pageant’s crowning ceremony in Jakarta.

Their lawyer said Tuesday that five of the women had their pictures taken.

“In light of what we have learned took place at Miss Universe Indonesia, it has become clear that this franchise has not lived up to our brand standards, ethics, or expectations,” the US-based Miss Universe Organization posted Saturday night on social media site X, formerly known as Twitter.

It said that it had “decided to terminate the relationship with its current franchise in Indonesia, PT Capella Swastika Karya, and its National Director, Poppy Capella.”

It thanked the contestants for their bravery in coming forward and added that “providing a safe place for women” was the organization’s priority.

Jakarta police spokesman Trunoyudo Wisnu Andiko said Tuesday that an investigation into the women’s complaint has been launched.

The Indonesia franchise also holds the license for Miss Universe Malaysia, where there will no longer be a competition this year, according to the New York-based parent organizer.

In a lengthy statement posted to Instagram, Indonesia franchise director Capella denied involvement in any body checks.

“I, as the National Director and as the owner of the Miss Universe Indonesia license, was not involved at all and have never known, ordered, requested or allowed anyone who played a role and participated in the process of organizing Miss Universe Indonesia 2023 to commit violence or sexual harassment through body checking,” she wrote.

She added that she is against “any form of violence or sexual harassment.”

The Jakarta competition was held from 29 July to 3 August to choose Indonesia’s representative to the 2023 Miss Universe contest, and was won by Fabienne Nicole Groeneveld.

Miss Universe said it would make arrangements for her to compete in the finale, scheduled for November in El Salvador.

This year’s Indonesia pageant also came under fire for announcing a “significant change in this (year’s) competition guidelines” with the elimination of its minimum height requirement after it had crowned a winner.

In its statement, the Miss Universe Organization said it wanted to “make it extremely clear that there are no measurements such as height, weight, or body dimensions required to join a Miss Universe pageant worldwide.”

— AFP

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A Perodua service centre in Kuantan, Malaysia went viral for its strict dress code, Perodua responds

A dress code for vehicle servicing? A Malaysian car brand’s service centre dress code signage has puzzled netizens, raising queries about the need for attire rules during a routine service.

The manufacturer responded with an official statement after a flurry of comments, seeking to clarify and apologize.

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MALAYSIA: A dress code signage positioned at a service centre belonging to a prominent Malaysian car brand has sparked bewilderment among Malaysian netizens, who question the necessity of adhering to attire guidelines for a simple vehicle servicing.

The signage explicitly delineates clothing items that are deemed unsuitable, including sleeveless tops, short skirts, abbreviated pants, and distressed jeans.

The car manufacturer swiftly found itself flooded with comments from both inquisitive and irked Malaysian netizens. This surge in online activity prompted the company to issue an official statement aimed at clarifying the situation and extending an apology.

In a post that gained significant traction on the social media platform, politician Quek Tai Seong of Pahang State, Malaysia, shared an image to Facebook on Monday (7 Aug).

The image showcased a dress code sign prominently displayed at a Perodua Service Centre in Kuantan. Within the post, Quek posed the question: “Is this dress code applicable nationwide, or is it specific to this branch?”

The signage reads, “All customers dealing with Perodua Service Kuantan 1, Semambu, are requested to dress modestly and appropriately.”

Adding visual clarity to these guidelines, the sign features illustrative graphics that explicitly outline clothing items deemed unacceptable, including sleeveless tops, short skirts, short pants, and ripped jeans.

Delineating the specifics of the dress code, the signage stipulates that male visitors are expected to don shirts accompanied by neckties, opt for long pants, and wear closed shoes.

Conversely, female visitors are advised to don long-sleeved shirts, full-length skirts, and closed-toe footwear.

Perodua’s dress code sparks online uproar

Following the rapid spread of the post, Perodua’s official Facebook page found itself inundated with comments from both intrigued and frustrated Malaysian netizens, all seeking clarifications about the newly surfaced dress code policy.

Amidst the flurry of comments, numerous incensed netizens posed pointed questions such as, “What is the rationale behind the introduction of such regulations by the management? We demand an explanation.”

Another netizen expressed their dissatisfaction, arguing against the necessity of the rule and urging Perodua to take inspiration from the practices of other 4S (Sales, Service, Spare Parts, and Survey) automotive dealerships.

A concerned Facebook user chimed in, advocating for a more lenient stance, asserting that attempting to dictate customers’ clothing choices might not be in the company’s best interest.

Someone also commented in an angry tone, “Oi what is this? Going there for car service, not interview or working, right.”

As the discourse unfolded, it became evident that while some inquiries carried genuine weight, others chose to inject humor into the situation, playfully remarking, “If I wanted to buy a Myvi, I should buy or rent a formal attire first.”

“I sell economy rice at a hawker centre, I have never worn a long sleeve shirt and a tie… I guess I will not buy a Perodua car then.”

“I guess they will not serve those who wear short pants.”

Perodua addresses dress code controversy

As reported by Chinese media outlet Sin Chew Daily News, the manager of Kuantan’s Perodua Service Centre had acknowledged that the images on the dress code signage were misleading.

In response, the manager divulged that discussions had transpired with the head office, leading to the prompt removal of the signage to prevent any further misconceptions.

The manager clarifies, “We do encourage visitors to adhere to the dress etiquette, but we won’t go to the extent of restricting their choice of attire.”

He also revealed that currently, no complaints have been directly received from the public.

However, feedback from certain customers was relayed through Perodua’s agents.

Perodua also released an official statement by chief operating officer JK Rozman Jaffar on Wednesday (9 Aug) regarding the dress code on their official Facebook page.

The statement stated the dress code etiquette is not aligned with their official guidelines and they are currently conducting an official investigation on the matter followed by corrective measures to avoid the same incident from happening.

Perodua also extends its apologies for any inconvenience caused.

 

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